Relationships and Communication
Relationships, can suffer alot due to lack of good communications. Infact it is one of the primary reasons, many fail to succed, due to fear or just lacking the ability to be more open and honest with your partner.
Of course for very many reasons, many of us can postpone the confrontation till later, and sometimes later never comes.
So we can get stuck with this, it can cause both parties alot of frustration and stored anger and a host of other pent up emotions, that never get said or released!
I have discovered as a counsellor and Massage therapist, many of the clients male and female often have the need to express themselves about what is happening within their relationships, and sometimes they cant quite say it to the other person for fear of confrontation, awkwardness, fear of rejection, or cant bear to say things, so they get more postponed or never expressed.
For instance, a young woman who came to see me, was feeling lonely and isolated, and at times sexually frustrated, but some women from childhood - can be conditioned not to show their emotions, and she felt too awkward to ask her boyfriend to please her more in the bedroom, the man was not able to see that, she was wanting to be satisfied, this made it more difficult to discuss it with him, so it became stored and stuck. She was just too scared to talk to him of her feelings. This can be a classic case, of embarrassment, resentment, frustration, but not been able to express herself, to him. She came for a massage, her back and neck were very tight, was feeling apprehensive, looked abit unsure of herself, but did manage to talk to me in greater detail, I think she felt a sigh of relief just to talk to another woman who can listen to her, without feeling judged or critisised.
After four sessions of massage and counselling, she decided to approach her boyfriend, and ask him if he could take his time when they made love to please her and satisfy her.
One evening when they went out for a drink, over a glass of wine, she sort of brought it up, and said the massage and talking helped her get brave enough to talk to him! – she found out it wasnt as bad as she imagined telling him, so it worked! and sometimes we just need to build up the confidence and courage!
best wishes for healing, Lana lucas. www.lanastantric.co.uk
